CO-CREATE
COUNSELLING
WELCOME
Personalized Therapy
Grounded in Relationship & Research
Welcome to Co-Create Counselling
Hi, my name is Lauren Aebig, and I am so happy you are here. I work with teens, and adults who are feeling stuck or stagnate in life.
If you are ready to move past this stagnation, whether being an emotional state, an outlook on life, a relationship, or a past situation, you have come to the right place. I can help you to process the past, in order to live in the present.
I am located in Nanaimo, BC. I offer both online, and in-person counselling.
My Guiding Principles
Collaboration
Evidence-based
Confidential
Trust
Perception
Body Knowledge
Acceptance of you
Strength-based
Connection and relationship
If you are experiencing feeling stuck, such as:
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In an emotional state of sadness, rage, regret, anger, etc.
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In negative thought loops about yourself such as: self-loathing, unworthiness, not confident in your ability.
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About a situation or relationship for example, stuck in grief, guilt, regret, etc.
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Frozen in panic and anxiety -easily triggered and not sure the cause.
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Addictive pattern of behaviours, such as, substances, shopping, people ,porn, or other tendencies.
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In a traumatic past event or situation, and cannot move past it; experiencing nightmares, flashbacks, sleep disruptions, unable to feel safe or relax.
If some of these sound like you, I can help you to free yourself from this stagnation, and move you towards the person you can be, and the life that you want.
You are not broken! Past, or current life experiences can create long lasting affects, you just need support. Super frustrating to feel you are in a constant looping pattern, especially if you feel alone with this struggle.
We humans have been wired for survival, so when we are threatened by another person, a situation, or event, our body keeps this memory. You are just trying your best to keep yourself safe. The result can be that you become stuck in an unhealthy pattern; stuck in an emotion such as fear, constant anxiety, or negative thought loops about yourself, or life.
Together we can better understand what is happening for you, and allow you to process past situations, relationships, emotions, or events. As well, to install the beliefs, and thoughts you want to think about yourself, relationships, and world.
I CAN HELP FOR
Emotional Challenges
Better understand your emotions and what they are telling you. Begin to allow your emotions to guide your life rather then control your life. Build the capacity to feel the uncomfortable feelings and allow these to pass fluidly.Â
Life Transitions
Life is constantly in motion, and there are times in your life you have big changes: retirement, pregnancy, marriage, new jobs, etc. Discuss your thoughts, and feelings, or how to make your decisions in a safe space.Â
Grief and Loss
You may have been struggling with the loss of a friend, family member, pet, or relationship. Feel supported, and heard to move through the feelings of grief. We never "get over it", but move into a place of humble acceptance.Â
Anxiety and Panic
Begin to view anxiety from a new perspective, in order to explore ways to lesson the intensity with tools and strategies. As well, understanding the cause, can support you in knowing, you are ok.Â
Depression and Sadness
Depression can leave you feeling drained, unmotivated; leaving life dull, and without any joy. Learn about what may be the underlying cause, and get the support you need to move through this sadness and take your life back.Â
Trauma
If your have been threatened by past events, or toxic relationships, your nervous system has been triggered to keep you safe. You may have developed a pattern of either fight, flight, or freeze. Reduce these responses here.Â
Relationships & Communication
Reflect on how you communicate  and learn new tools and strategies to better express yourself to others. Learn ways to set healthy boundaries to enhance your relationships.Â
Self-esteem & Confidence
Feeling low about you self worth can taint your entire world. Begin to open up to your strengths, and gifts to begin to change your perspective on yourself.Â
Addictions
Recovering from any addiction is tough. Begin to view the addictions from a resiliency perspective rather than defeat. Understand the underlying reason for why you needed to cope, and how to move through this.Â
My Approach
My approach in the counselling space is based on the trusting relationship between you and me. I want you to feel safe, cared for, and understood. I believe that a strong and safe connection between us is healing on its own. I want to facilitate your inner journey towards feeling better as an equal partner in this space.
I view the world with a trauma informed lens, meaning, many of the aggravating issues you may be experiencing are the result of our body's nervous system trying to keep you safe, but you may have become stuck in a looping pattern. Awareness of the fight, flight , freeze, responses, and how to calm these reactions can allow you to begin to feel safe to be you, and live the life that you were meant for.
I want to help you to shift your perspective about yourself, events, or life by guiding you to process unhealed parts of yourself, past situations or events, relationships, and also installing the beliefs you want to think about yourself, and the world.
Feel heard. Be Seen. Feel Valued.
"My intention in every session is for you to have a better understanding of yourself, relationships & your life"
In session we can:
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Cultivate Relationship- Feel hard, seen and valued. Feel safe to feel your emotions and to speak about your darkest shadows. I am here with you.
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Give Space for you to Speak your Mind- Talk about stresses in work, relationships, or any other life challenges. I am here to listen.
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Arts and Drama-Creative expression to process, and move emotions, and thought patterns. I am here to help you process with creative expression.
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Parts Work- Get to know the different parts, or aspects of yourself. I am here to listen and value all of you.
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EMDR-Learn about your nervous system, and the threat response, and how to process past traumas, and rewire your beliefs about yourself, and the world. I am here to help you finally feel safe.
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